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couples_therapy 54.3. Can your partner convince you to change your mind?
Mar. 1st, 2009 02:32 pmgift_girlYes, of course he can.
[locked to those who know about what Thomas is]
Not as he used to be able to, no. Not getting me to subject to what he willed by the power of his touch, the power of his mind... well. The power that the demon-inside gave his mind.
It used to be so easy sometimes, just to give in to his will, even when I thought I shouldn't. It was so easy and it felt oh so good and much of the time I wouldn't fight it - there was no sense, and I didn't want to. But eventually I knew that he didn't like it, and I learned not to, either. Or he grew not to like it, not that, nor anything that took from me who I am, anything that hurt me.
Except that I am stubborn, and he always tried to keep me a little safer, a little better, so he ended up doing it anyway.
But not unless he had to.
[/locked]
I am stubborn, but not impossibly so, or unreasonable. And he is a very, very persuasive man, intelligent, knowing, and, well, definitely more
than meets the eye. (If anyone knows how much more, it is me - in ways, I think better even than his sisters. Or sister.) I know that when he's arguing for something, he has good reasons to, and I usually try to listen.
And we don't have all that much time anymore, definitely not enough to argue or fight.
No, it's not that difficult for him to talk me into things.
It's an entirely different question whether he wants or tries to. And the answer to that is, often enough, no. He doesn't usually even want to deny me what I want (or want to give him, even when the execution of the well-intentioned idea turns out to be less than the most intelligent thing ever); let alone trying to change ... me. Or my mind.
So - yes, he can. No, he usually won't.
Patient: Justine
Fandom: The Dresden Files (novels)
Partner: Thomas Raithraith_wraith (canon, with permission)
Words: 329
[locked to those who know about what Thomas is]
Not as he used to be able to, no. Not getting me to subject to what he willed by the power of his touch, the power of his mind... well. The power that the demon-inside gave his mind.
It used to be so easy sometimes, just to give in to his will, even when I thought I shouldn't. It was so easy and it felt oh so good and much of the time I wouldn't fight it - there was no sense, and I didn't want to. But eventually I knew that he didn't like it, and I learned not to, either. Or he grew not to like it, not that, nor anything that took from me who I am, anything that hurt me.
Except that I am stubborn, and he always tried to keep me a little safer, a little better, so he ended up doing it anyway.
But not unless he had to.
[/locked]
I am stubborn, but not impossibly so, or unreasonable. And he is a very, very persuasive man, intelligent, knowing, and, well, definitely more
than meets the eye. (If anyone knows how much more, it is me - in ways, I think better even than his sisters. Or sister.) I know that when he's arguing for something, he has good reasons to, and I usually try to listen.
And we don't have all that much time anymore, definitely not enough to argue or fight.
No, it's not that difficult for him to talk me into things.
It's an entirely different question whether he wants or tries to. And the answer to that is, often enough, no. He doesn't usually even want to deny me what I want (or want to give him, even when the execution of the well-intentioned idea turns out to be less than the most intelligent thing ever); let alone trying to change ... me. Or my mind.
So - yes, he can. No, he usually won't.
Patient: Justine
Fandom: The Dresden Files (novels)
Partner: Thomas Raith
raith_wraith (canon, with permission)Words: 329
